My Gang Diaries

Today we will talk about the most common word we use everyday " FRIENDS". We all have friends. How would you like to describe your friendship??  Let me guess, may be something like "I cannot imagine life without Friends" or "Friends are my everything" or "Friendship is a sweet responsibility not an opportunity" etc. If I am not wrong friendship is a relation like we have a relation with our mom, dad, brother, sister. And what a relation demand ? Its simply trust and understanding. Today I will be sharing about my gang and how I got connected with them.

      Since my childhood, I had this habit that I do not feel comfortable with too many people around me. And once I get to know them then only I start hanging out with them. Till my school days I had a lot of friends. Then I went for higher education and things started changing. Like others I too love to have new friends. I made friends for sure but they were fake. I mean to say that they had two different faces. Slowly slowly I started staying away from all of my friends. As I was a hosteler, I had only friends around me. I talked to some people. I thought, I was knowing people more better and could judge them. But I was wrong. Nowadays people want something else, they do not need the friendship. Then it was my Graduation period. The same thing I did, staying away from others. But you know people, they cannot sit quietly without troubling others. The same happened with me. With all these incidents, I started hating myself and the people. You will get to know about the WHOLE NIGHTMARE  in the next post.
        Then my professional life started. I disconnected myself from each and every person there in my life. I was busy in my life with few friends those are very special to me till now also. But today I will be sharing only about my major Gang. Around 3 years back, I had a call from one of my school friend that he is in the same town where I was working. So we decided to meet up after my office. He came with his friend and his friend and I had some common things. So we got to know each other very soon. We went to a pub, got to know each other because I had never met that school buddy before. It was through social media, we came to know. The very first question he asked that what friendship mean to you?? And I like it because someone is so much interested to know about my views on this. Great..... Trust and understanding. I do not like people who want me or my jism (body) in sake of friendship. I do not entertain  these kinda of people. This was my answer and both of them were quiet happy as if they got something they were searching since a long time. HAAAHAAAA....  After that slowly slowly I got to know each and every person of his group. But still the scariness was there of losing such a beautiful group.  They used to come to my home when I was there in my hometown. We built up so many good memories and I got such a beautiful group of people.
           But there is a twist. After sometime I got to know that my school buddy is in love with me. And we all know love does not knock out doors to come in. It only happens. I would have left that group or might have slapped him. But I am not that kind of person. I just asked him one suggestion: "If you cannot carry out this friendship then break this relation. Because I had seen people leaving me for this single reason that is love. They do not understand that love is connected to your heart not your brain."
He answered me, he wanted our friendship to be continued. Ya, sometimes it is hard to explain him when he gets stuck between heart and brain. And brain takes the control. But our friendship is very strong.
    Let me tell you about my whole gang.  I am not their childhood friend or college-mate but the love and affection, they had shown me was like we knew each other since a long time. I feel so free with them. Like we feel suffocated in some relations but here I feel being myself. All of them are really supportive, fun-loving, understanding. The best thing I really want to highlight about them is that, each one of them feel like I am one of those guys among them and the makeups, stilettos, traditional dress up on me make me them feel as if they are with a stranger. They never thought me as a girl[Hihihi.....]. That dance moves, exchanging numbers at pubs, searching for golgappas at late night, moving like vallas (fence), blablablaaaa.... no one of us can forget all these. But still they are waiting to see me with a perfect traditional look, maybe it would be on my wedding day. That one thing I must say them what they do not know about me is that I do not listen to anyone, I only listen to my heart. I still believe my heart because I still believe my heart is my mother which will never misguide me.

      Friendship is not about who you have known the longest it's about who came and left your side. And I believe you guys will stay forever with me. You guys are like snowflakes, all are different and beautiful from heart.

    In life we never lose friends, we only come to know who the TRUE ones.

   

Is It Time to Talk More About TIME ??

Here I come with a word which we use 100 times per day something called as "TIME". For example Kitna baj gaya(what time is it), Yaar mera time kharab chalra hai kya kare(A very hard day what to do??), Tu itne baje ane wala tha,late kardiya yaar (You are going to come at that TIME ,you are late buddy), Girl friend or boy friend bolte h tum mujhe time hi kab dete ho(Girl friend or boy friend say when you have timefor me)... many more are there in real life which you are used to regarding the word time...

But the main thing that strike my mind is why people say "Waste of Time"??

First of all if you think the thing you are doing is a waste of time then why you do that thing ?

We are simple human beings to hide our faults and blame others or the situation. In that manner if we are not success in our life then we blame time. Let me say you about two persons , hope you will understand what i mean to say. Basically people of our age fall in love and most probably 70% got betrayed, after that most commonly they used to listen sad songs & behave like "DEVDAS". But one of my friend , his story made me inspired . He was in love with a girl madly,they used to date each other, there love affair was famous during his college days. As we know , after college  people struggle a lot by going far from there home town ,like that only he went out in search of job.
      His Dad said "Jab tak ghar nhi chodega tab tak tu bada admi nhi banpayega"(if you won't leave  the home then you are not going to know about struggle), finally he got a job but by getting a job the time he used to give that girl became less. Slowly , slowly due to work pressure , the distance between them got farther & farther. He realizes this thing & planned for a surprise on her birthday,when he arrived, the girl was no longer there. She was dating someone else, he didn't say a single word . Only the word he spoke was "Khus raho"(Stay happy).Then he went out , Uhun guys don't get confused there means i had said it before that devdas scene. After getting drunken due to rash driving he met with an accident .We all friends heard all this stuff one of his friend said "yaar tera time kharab chalra pehle ladki chodi uske baad itna bura accident"(Friend your time was really bad your girlfriend left you & you met with an accident). The reply he heard was really inspiring he said "Yaar mera time kabhi kharab nhi hai mene kuch sikha hai ki jindagi aise bhi hoti hai jo hota hai ache k liye hota hai us ladki k andar kabhi mere liye kuch tha hi nahi aur mera accident mere wajah se hua ,pine k baad aramse gadi chalao yeh bhi sikhliya mene"(Buddy mine time was not bad i learned something here. The girl never loved me and meeting with an accident was also my fault never speed up while you are drunk ). He chose the positive one that everyone have one in them.

Now I will like to introduce someone who is there in our society.As usual workers,  he used to be an ordinary worker who passed out graduation in Commerce stream , due to some problem he stopped studying & left his home town in search of job.He was working as an operator in a lathe machine i don't know about machines but he used to say so I remembered. People side by side say you were good in studies why you left studying ??as your family back ground is also good, on his back people say "Yaar uska time kharab chalra hai"(His time is not good).By listening all theoe stuffs he never revert back ,he keep on doing his work. After some years he owned his own factory where several worker are there,when those people asked him how you achieve all this things he replied "I had never blame time for my luck i just used this time in hard work to achieve some thing.I had a dream that i will do mechanical factory of my own if  I would studied further now I may be a C.A  but my dream would have failed so I left studying. I just used all these time for my dream without failing or thinking that I would have done this or that.

CONCLUSION:-

      So,guys I will never say to learn something or be like them. It's all yours. Both of them have different views regarding time but they never blamed it.They just learned or utilized the time, the way they wanted. .Never blame the situation or person or time. If we are doing so then we are wasting time. Let's start with a new beginning thinking what we can do today not about future. Failures and success will come and go but let's start learning from them.