A Change In Me !!!

Hey Guys!!!

Sorry to get disappeared suddenly. I was bit busy these days. Many of you were asking about my
next post. And here I am with an inspiring story of a 21 year old boy who got inspired from someone..
Let's see who inspired my chotu (Small brother) and let get inspired too.

   Have you ever thought,how much we spend daily on cigarettes, alcohol,
 hookah, drugs and all that???  Of course we do not think but I believe after
 reading this, not all but some of you will try to change yourself.

      Let us go back to that incident.......

      On a fine evening Chotu was chilling out with one of his friend. They ordered a
strong base with a nice flavor with the Sheesah. They had vaped three hours,com-busting the charcoals one after the another. Their bill was likely near Nine- hundred
rupees and they divided it among them.Then Chotu returned back to his room. It was almost 11 o'clock at night. He used to take a share auto to get down at his place. That night,he took a share auto. When he get into the auto, a small girl and a boy were sitting beside him. They were looking like slum children. Chotu was surprised that why these children were returning so late to their home. He had questioned the same. They replied him that they used to wash plates in a fast food stall to get monthly Rs.400/- each. He also asked regarding their studies and going to school. They said YES they go, but at the evening they used to work there to survive. At that moment Chotu got Goosebumps, and with the teary eyes, he checked his wallet and realized that.... he had spent Rs.450/- in Hookah Lounge, which was nothing but useless expenditure. At that time he had overall Rs.70/- in his wallet. He had decided to give atleast Rs.50/- to those small kids. When he offered them, they refused to take the money. Watching this spirit of them he was totally graced and convinced them to take the money, so that he could learn a lesson to not waste money on useless things.

       From that day he decided, to give atleast 10-20% of his useless expenditure to the needy people.


       It's not about teenagers even we adults also do the same. If a teenage guy can change himself then why cannot we? It's not about living a happy or a luxurious life , it's about our self satisfaction. Self satisfaction makes life worth living. We should not forget one thing that helping others is a blessing in disguise. Because when we help others to grow, we grow in the process too.It adds value and meaning to our lives.

My Gang Diaries

Today we will talk about the most common word we use everyday " FRIENDS". We all have friends. How would you like to describe your friendship??  Let me guess, may be something like "I cannot imagine life without Friends" or "Friends are my everything" or "Friendship is a sweet responsibility not an opportunity" etc. If I am not wrong friendship is a relation like we have a relation with our mom, dad, brother, sister. And what a relation demand ? Its simply trust and understanding. Today I will be sharing about my gang and how I got connected with them.

      Since my childhood, I had this habit that I do not feel comfortable with too many people around me. And once I get to know them then only I start hanging out with them. Till my school days I had a lot of friends. Then I went for higher education and things started changing. Like others I too love to have new friends. I made friends for sure but they were fake. I mean to say that they had two different faces. Slowly slowly I started staying away from all of my friends. As I was a hosteler, I had only friends around me. I talked to some people. I thought, I was knowing people more better and could judge them. But I was wrong. Nowadays people want something else, they do not need the friendship. Then it was my Graduation period. The same thing I did, staying away from others. But you know people, they cannot sit quietly without troubling others. The same happened with me. With all these incidents, I started hating myself and the people. You will get to know about the WHOLE NIGHTMARE  in the next post.
        Then my professional life started. I disconnected myself from each and every person there in my life. I was busy in my life with few friends those are very special to me till now also. But today I will be sharing only about my major Gang. Around 3 years back, I had a call from one of my school friend that he is in the same town where I was working. So we decided to meet up after my office. He came with his friend and his friend and I had some common things. So we got to know each other very soon. We went to a pub, got to know each other because I had never met that school buddy before. It was through social media, we came to know. The very first question he asked that what friendship mean to you?? And I like it because someone is so much interested to know about my views on this. Great..... Trust and understanding. I do not like people who want me or my jism (body) in sake of friendship. I do not entertain  these kinda of people. This was my answer and both of them were quiet happy as if they got something they were searching since a long time. HAAAHAAAA....  After that slowly slowly I got to know each and every person of his group. But still the scariness was there of losing such a beautiful group.  They used to come to my home when I was there in my hometown. We built up so many good memories and I got such a beautiful group of people.
           But there is a twist. After sometime I got to know that my school buddy is in love with me. And we all know love does not knock out doors to come in. It only happens. I would have left that group or might have slapped him. But I am not that kind of person. I just asked him one suggestion: "If you cannot carry out this friendship then break this relation. Because I had seen people leaving me for this single reason that is love. They do not understand that love is connected to your heart not your brain."
He answered me, he wanted our friendship to be continued. Ya, sometimes it is hard to explain him when he gets stuck between heart and brain. And brain takes the control. But our friendship is very strong.
    Let me tell you about my whole gang.  I am not their childhood friend or college-mate but the love and affection, they had shown me was like we knew each other since a long time. I feel so free with them. Like we feel suffocated in some relations but here I feel being myself. All of them are really supportive, fun-loving, understanding. The best thing I really want to highlight about them is that, each one of them feel like I am one of those guys among them and the makeups, stilettos, traditional dress up on me make me them feel as if they are with a stranger. They never thought me as a girl[Hihihi.....]. That dance moves, exchanging numbers at pubs, searching for golgappas at late night, moving like vallas (fence), blablablaaaa.... no one of us can forget all these. But still they are waiting to see me with a perfect traditional look, maybe it would be on my wedding day. That one thing I must say them what they do not know about me is that I do not listen to anyone, I only listen to my heart. I still believe my heart because I still believe my heart is my mother which will never misguide me.

      Friendship is not about who you have known the longest it's about who came and left your side. And I believe you guys will stay forever with me. You guys are like snowflakes, all are different and beautiful from heart.

    In life we never lose friends, we only come to know who the TRUE ones.

   

Is It Time to Talk More About TIME ??

Here I come with a word which we use 100 times per day something called as "TIME". For example Kitna baj gaya(what time is it), Yaar mera time kharab chalra hai kya kare(A very hard day what to do??), Tu itne baje ane wala tha,late kardiya yaar (You are going to come at that TIME ,you are late buddy), Girl friend or boy friend bolte h tum mujhe time hi kab dete ho(Girl friend or boy friend say when you have timefor me)... many more are there in real life which you are used to regarding the word time...

But the main thing that strike my mind is why people say "Waste of Time"??

First of all if you think the thing you are doing is a waste of time then why you do that thing ?

We are simple human beings to hide our faults and blame others or the situation. In that manner if we are not success in our life then we blame time. Let me say you about two persons , hope you will understand what i mean to say. Basically people of our age fall in love and most probably 70% got betrayed, after that most commonly they used to listen sad songs & behave like "DEVDAS". But one of my friend , his story made me inspired . He was in love with a girl madly,they used to date each other, there love affair was famous during his college days. As we know , after college  people struggle a lot by going far from there home town ,like that only he went out in search of job.
      His Dad said "Jab tak ghar nhi chodega tab tak tu bada admi nhi banpayega"(if you won't leave  the home then you are not going to know about struggle), finally he got a job but by getting a job the time he used to give that girl became less. Slowly , slowly due to work pressure , the distance between them got farther & farther. He realizes this thing & planned for a surprise on her birthday,when he arrived, the girl was no longer there. She was dating someone else, he didn't say a single word . Only the word he spoke was "Khus raho"(Stay happy).Then he went out , Uhun guys don't get confused there means i had said it before that devdas scene. After getting drunken due to rash driving he met with an accident .We all friends heard all this stuff one of his friend said "yaar tera time kharab chalra pehle ladki chodi uske baad itna bura accident"(Friend your time was really bad your girlfriend left you & you met with an accident). The reply he heard was really inspiring he said "Yaar mera time kabhi kharab nhi hai mene kuch sikha hai ki jindagi aise bhi hoti hai jo hota hai ache k liye hota hai us ladki k andar kabhi mere liye kuch tha hi nahi aur mera accident mere wajah se hua ,pine k baad aramse gadi chalao yeh bhi sikhliya mene"(Buddy mine time was not bad i learned something here. The girl never loved me and meeting with an accident was also my fault never speed up while you are drunk ). He chose the positive one that everyone have one in them.

Now I will like to introduce someone who is there in our society.As usual workers,  he used to be an ordinary worker who passed out graduation in Commerce stream , due to some problem he stopped studying & left his home town in search of job.He was working as an operator in a lathe machine i don't know about machines but he used to say so I remembered. People side by side say you were good in studies why you left studying ??as your family back ground is also good, on his back people say "Yaar uska time kharab chalra hai"(His time is not good).By listening all theoe stuffs he never revert back ,he keep on doing his work. After some years he owned his own factory where several worker are there,when those people asked him how you achieve all this things he replied "I had never blame time for my luck i just used this time in hard work to achieve some thing.I had a dream that i will do mechanical factory of my own if  I would studied further now I may be a C.A  but my dream would have failed so I left studying. I just used all these time for my dream without failing or thinking that I would have done this or that.

CONCLUSION:-

      So,guys I will never say to learn something or be like them. It's all yours. Both of them have different views regarding time but they never blamed it.They just learned or utilized the time, the way they wanted. .Never blame the situation or person or time. If we are doing so then we are wasting time. Let's start with a new beginning thinking what we can do today not about future. Failures and success will come and go but let's start learning from them.

Season of love- A Valentine Week

Oh it's valentine week... A season of love, we say. Love is the most powerful healing energy. Everything you do with love spreads healing.  Valentine week, some of us go for a vacation, some enjoy with their children, some go to orphanage, some for shopping, some go for parties but as usual I chose my work. I never had a perfect Valentine week in my life. But this time God was little pity on me and it was a big surprise for me only.

      It was simple but yet beautiful. I think when a person feels that he/she is on the top of the world then it's one of the best feeling ever. Week started with the Rose Day with a beautiful bunch of roses. Followed with Propose Day, Chocolate Day with all my favorite chocolates. Teddy Day, the day started with a cute little teddies as a gift. Then it comes Promise Day, Hug Day, Kiss Day. Here, I will keep it as a secret. Finally, it's the Valentine Day.... Wowwww..... Tick-tock... Tick-tock ....... It's 12 o'clock and Valentine Day started with a beautiful fruit cake, decorative lights, fragrance candles, cards, slow music. The most interesting part was I was in deep sleep when this surprise was being planned. When I woke up it was just like a dream. Room was dark but lighted with candles. I was speechless. So special, how come?? But it's the fact. Let me tell you about the Promise day. What people usually promise ?? Darling, I won't leave you. I will stay with you forever. Or something like, Baby, you know na how much I love you?? I will stay with you till my death. Even I got these fake promises so I  usually don't believe these. Don't take me in the other way, I really do not want to hurt anyone. I am just sharing what I had been seeing since ages. But this time I can say I had to change my mind. Someone promising you that the person may not be with us but they will surely stand beside us every time we need them. Without saying anything they will know what we want. I was not believing till it did not happen to me really. The feeling was growing stronger and stronger and it's really amazing to meet such person. When we expect and the expectations fails then it hurts and it happened with me many times. But when we do not expect but there are only surprises for us then the feeling  is something amazing. Feel like it's a fairy tale.

      I did not expect a perfect Valentine week ever but still someone thought for me. That was really sweet.It's nothing for some people who get surprises like every alternative day. And my valentine week was not that luxurious or mysterious. But what matters is the person took out some time for me and planned a small surprise and in return the person want a beautiful smile on my face. I had seen people getting so rude and spoiling their and others moods because they did not get the things as per they had expected. I had also people who did not much money but they sat near a road side fast food stall and had a candle light dinner and they end of their day so happily. Even I had seen people partying hard, some even going to orphanage. Basically, is it really about Valentine Day that we celebrate on 14th Feb?? No, I do not think so. It's about love, care, humanity that you people has to spread. Money, gifts, cars, bungalows you won't take it with you. The way you will love and care for others, you will surely not earn money but more than that you will earn reputation, love ,affection, care. In this,just want to give a message that money is not everything. Just see the person efforts, see their feelings, respect their feelings. Then only we can deserve that same love and affection that we are running after nowadays.

         There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.Love is when the other person's happiness is more priority than your own. I do believe this. If you believe so, then help each other to spread love and kindness where every evil minds will bow their heads before us...

The Dark Forest entry in my Life Game

3 years back, I started searching for a particular path to follow. I failed to achieve that, with this I lost my piece of mind,confident,patience. Still I continued searching, because I never knew what is failure without trying. In this journey I went to a darker place. It was more darker than where I was living.

    It was a 'Dark Forest', full of darkness. And I went into the forest,to lose my mind and find my soul. It was quiet and sometimes screaming out of pain that the people had gave. Startlingly, I was little scared of darkness and loneliness. But as I moved on, I found so many beautiful things.
  I sat there for a long time alone and was deep in my thoughts. I found one reply from inside that is 'I am not the one who I supposed to be? ' Life is beautiful when all goes well but when troubles come then we blame the life. Why we do so??  Without challenges life is lifeless. Life had given me several chances to fulfill my dreams but people did not want this to happen or I can say my struggle did not happen the way it should be. Being a human sometimes I lose my patience and start crying but again I make myself stand strong because we all know that "All good things are wild and free but it takes time to happen". No one has guided me in a proper way so that I can see the proper path. I think that's the almighty who is showing small small paths in this darkness to step in. But I am sure one day he will show enough light for the next step to be safe. Just waiting for the day to come.
     The  pain is not gone but I've learned to live with it. A normal person will not be interested to know about the the beauty of the darkness. Every darkness comes with a light but we have to find it out.
               This life is yours.Take the power of what you want to do and do it well. Take the power to love what you want in life and love it honestly. Take the power of controlling your own life, no one else can do it better than you. Take the power to make your life happy and independent.  

A letter to my Mom: Make Yourself Available

Hi Moti,

This is me your cutiepie.. Oophs.... I got super slim now. haahaa... How are you mom? How is your health? How is papa? Boring, it's our daily gossips over phone mom. Let's talk something interesting. Mom, very important and essential word for everyone, but people are not used to it. A mom can take the place of all other's but her place no one can take not even Dad. Mom, I miss u each and every moment but unable to express this. I don't need anyone else when you are there around me. I know, you are worried about me but I will say, Don't Worry Mom. You have made me strong enough to adjust with this world. Sometimes I wish I could sleep on your lap that's the best way to relax yourself. Mom you are my best friend,you are the sweetest person I had ever came across. I am worried about you and I promise you I will solve all these bloody stuffs but you need to promise me that you have to keep supporting me the way you had been doing. The day you will go away from me,I will become an orphan from that day. I don't have enough word to explain the word "MOM".I shout at you not because of anger rather you can say that I didnt find the perfect person to share my feelings yet.

       Moms are like super fast trains. They are never alone in their thoughts. Look at my mom only,how far I stay but she is after my daily routine. I have seen people changing after they are grown up but the one thing that remain same is "MOM" and "HER DUTIES". Sometimes moms are slightly insane because they care for their children. But children are there who need their own space but in problems they will be in search of a old lady whom they used to call "MOM".Why we people behave so rudely? Why we don't think even once that she is reason for my existence? Why we forget that she taught us how to walk,talk,speak? Why we think that it's her duty every-time to protect us,why can't we think that it's our duty also to take care of her in her old age. I don't think any of our mom has ever demanded anything expensive like our partner does.... They deserve the respect, so respect them.

                                                                                                                           
                                                                                                                                                     Yours
                                                                                                                                                       Puchu

Am I Worthless???

Since a long time, I am having this pain. The pain is somewhere lying quietly in my heart and pinching me. But something interesting I will share with you is about my surrounding. As we all know about the so called "People" around us. Some comments on me, some encourage me with their words, some cry seeing my situation etc etc..... Will all these solutions make me out of my problem??

Of course a big "NO". Is the real humanity died or the people have become so reserved/ selfish that they cannot help others. Are they so busy in their stuffs that they do not have 2 minutes of time to talk? I cannot blame my fate always neither I have any doubt on my hard-work. But surely I can blame the "System" and the "People".

              The pain I am feeling no one else can feel it till he/she has not gone through it.Giving advises,commenting at others,laughing at others or do not give dialogues "Don't give up. Great things take time" bla...blaaaa are not going to work these days, what you can do is at least help that person and let he/she feel that he/she is not alone, someone else is also trying hard for it. Ask me what loneliness means, Its like " Today all my passions have died.My senses have stopped responding me.I feel I am getting older and older. Nothing is left to do here in this world." This loneliness is much more dangerous than your anger. All people are not same.Some are strong,some are weak,some have patient,some lose courage,etc and we all know what is the next step but still we ignore these people thinking that , it's not my stuff. We all have the same motive of earning more and more money. But let me ask my readers, how many of you people took a headache to help others in earning?? Do you know the people having pain inside them,how much they hate themselves? May be one of these people your closed ones, relative, family members, friend. Then make sure one day you are going to hear a bad news about the person. We cannot help our closed ones then how come we can think about a stranger,right?
             Everyone has a right to live a healthy life with a smile, please help those people to live and enjoy. As you do what you love to,help them also to do the same

They need a hug saying just they are not worthless..